Using other people to help in hard times is okay, until i started to need them to do the healing for me. I need to re focus on doing it for myself, So I have made a list of things I used to do, that will (hopefully) help me get where I want to:
- All free time does not have to be spent with someone else – quality time for yourself is important. Have a bath, watch that thing you’ve wanted to watch, read a shitty magazine or blog, and enjoy your own space.
- Start a routine, in the morning and night – take your make up off, moisturise, prep for the day ahead, take your vitamins.
- Draw – you love it, and you stop yourself because you say that it won’t be good when you do it anyway, but practise is the only way forward.
- Prep your meals – in bad times, atleast knowing there’s a healthy meal available takes a load off. Take pride in cooking, try something new.
- Exercise is not the answer to everything – yes, scientifically it has shown to help. But also so do many other things. You don’t need to exercise to earn love for your body.
- Look after yourself – do your hair nice even if you’re not going anywhere in particular, shave your legs, dye your eyebrows, exfoliate often. Do this for you, because you deserve to feel good.
- Go for a drive – no better therapy than singing at the top of your lungs.
- Meditate – one that I have never gotten in to, but know works. You don’t need an app, you just need 10 minutes to focus on thinking of the now.
- Don’t look ahead and dread – that shift won’t be as bad as you think it will be, that day won’t drag, the only thing that makes it negative is your thoughts. Just wait, breathe and take it as it comes.
- Treat yo’ self properly – don’t go out and buy a pointless item for the sake of it – get your haircut instead, go and get your nails done which you never do, save up for more gym clothes.
- Don’t eat crap on the reg – take aways are allowed, as is chocolate, but figure when you really really want it, and when you’re just eating it for the sake of it. Sometimes it’s just worse in the long run.
There are probably many more – but these are my starters. It’s taken me a long time to realise that I have stopped trusting myself to do anything. I’ve needed support, and without outside nagging, I haven’t done many of these in the past years.
So I’m going back to my basics ✌️